I’m a black woman and have been with my boyfriend for five years.

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Over the last several decades, the American public has grown increasingly accepting of interracial dating and marriage.

This shift in opinion has been driven both by attitude change among individuals generally and by the fact that over the period, successive generations have reached adulthood with more racially liberal views than earlier generations.

Millennials are no exception to this trend: Large majorities of 18-to-29 year olds express support for interracial marriage within their families, and the level of acceptance in this generation is greater than in other generations.

Since the ‘problem group’ are strangers, how do we address this? Plus, she adds, interracial couples, from a sociological perspective, are still considered “deviant.” The result?

” and its interracially dating (or affair-having, but whatever) protagonists may dominate Thursday-night television, Lupita may possibly have something going on with Jared Leto and New York City’s first family may be on “Team Swirl,” but alas, none of that means people aren’t going to look at you and your boyfriend. “The standards of behavior and etiquette when it comes to interacting with them can really often go out the window,” Childs says. According to the latest stats, 84 percent of Americans approve of interracial marriages, so it should be some comfort that a lot of people’s looks probably aren’t meant to come off as the evil eye, and most of the people you encounter probably aren’t going home to make insane You Tube comments about Cheerios commercials.

Given that, we came up with a list of tips for how you can make the “interracial-couple dilemma” less of a dilemma. But keep in mind that despite increasing numbers of interracial relationships, black women are less likely than just about anyone else to jump on board with them.

That makes you and your boyfriend an especially rare sight, and the subject of what might be just visual interest, paired with some curiosity.

Have you ever let your eyes linger for an extra moment when seeing something for the first time?

Ever given an overcompensating compliment because you weren’t sure what else to say? It doesn’t make these interactions pleasant when you’re just trying to, say, see a movie and some creepy stranger tells you how beautiful you look together.

But it’s helpful to remember that all the attention has little to do with you as individuals and a lot to do with cultural context and just plain numbers. Don’t be scared, but do be strategic about where you spend your time.

I don’t like the idea of living in fear of your social life in order to avoid scrutiny.