But when she met her she claims she 'totally got it' and saw how it 'brought out a totally different side' of her husband.(A woman wrote to share with me that, in all ways but legally, she is equally married to both a man and a woman.

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Polyamory helps me do that without putting all my needs on my husband.'She said they first brought up the subject after moving in together aged 18 when they came across the question 'how do you feel about monogamy?

' in a magazine survey and they both selected the answer 'it's an unrealistic expectation.'She said smartphones have been a 'huge blessing' to people in more than one relationship: 'It's so much easier to make people feel like they're part of your day by sending a quick hello text or a picture of something that reminded you of them that helps keep them close to you even as you have a separate life.' Lisa said both her and her husband had many dependency issues at the start of their relationship and having multiple partners has highlighted that they need to be independent.

She said they do not want the kind of relationship where they 'police' each other.

When her husband was involved with a woman who was 'the exact opposite' of her she was 'really uncomfortable'.

Honestly, the term “polyamorous” wasn’t on our radar when we fell in love.

It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were.

If we need a term, we consider ourselves “poly-fidelitous,” which is what poly’s call those who love more than one person in a long-term, faithful kind of way.

A married woman who has admitted to being in relationships with five different men at once - just one of whom is her husband - claims that the other men in her life have actually helped to strengthen her marriage.

Writing under the pseudonym of Lisa, the 34-year-old said she has been in a relationship with her husband for half of her life, but claims having other partners has improved rather than hindered their partnership.