His legs are pillars of alabaster Set on pedestals of pure gold; his appearance is like Lebanon choice as the cedars. As a male (with a slight ego), I don’t want my significant other to settle for or gag at the sight of me; then again I’m not trying to be on Magazine’s Most Beautiful List either.

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QUESTION: After my share of bad relationships, I re-dedicated my life to the Lord and I am dating, essentially, the "perfect man." He wants to marry me, he is a believer, and he fits every quality I want in a husband. He is not physically my type, he looks and dresses in the opposite way from what I find attractive, I don't find him handsome, and can't feel attraction for him the way I have felt in previous relationships.

My friends say I'm crazy for doubting our relationship.

His head is like gold, pure gold; his locks are like clusters of dates and black as a raven.

His eyes are like doves beside streams of water, bathed in milk, and reposed in their setting.

His cheeks are like a bed of balsam, banks of sweet-scented herbs; his lips are lilies dripping with liquid myrrh.

His hands are rods of gold Set with beryl; his abdomen is carved ivory Inlaid with sapphires. This is my beloved and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem, but these are the words of God from a woman who was seriously enamored by her beau.

I know that "romance" and "physical attraction" are not in the dictionary of God's word, but I get scared and panic sometimes when I think about marrying without any attraction or romance.

What keeps me going is God's promise that my marriage will be favored and blessed and "every other thing will be added." But that doesn't close up the hollow feeling or give me peace. HE SAID: We’ve been groomed by society to look for the “Perfect Man” or the “Perfect Woman.” Reality shows portray groups of contestants vying for the heart of “Romance” and “physical attraction” may not be in "the dictionary of God’s Word," however, the book Song of Solomon is.