Well, the first Valentine’s Day I actually got to celebrate, anyway.

It’s easy to see how people could be confused about which stage they are and which stage their partners are.

Why V-Day is scary Valentine’s Day creates pressure to sort out all this confusion, and also gives people an excuse to define their relationship with certainty.

Both people have to agree if they are already in or want to move into a relationship, which determines whether they do the V-Day thing together.

I was listening to On Air with Ryan Seacrest a few days ago, and a girl called in crying, saying how disappointed she felt that the guy she was dating did not take her out for Valentine’s Day.

My friends were so surprised that at 24 years old I had never had a real Valentine’s Day, but I am pretty sure I am not alone (please LEAVE COMMENTS below if this year was also your first V-Day! Last Valentine’s Day, my friend told me not to be sad that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with – when the time is right, it will exceed all your expectations. So let’s go back to talking about the big V-Day date, and chatting about some points that I think are interesting to share.

Having “the talk” Before V-Day this year, my boyfriend and I had been dating for a couple of months, and we were right at the point of “defining the relationship.” We had a big, formal talk over dinner one night to discuss where we were in this relationship and where it should be going, and this talk basically determined if we would celebrate Valentine’s Day together.

Well, there are so many types of relationships in the U.

S.: dating, casual dating, relationship, open relationship (this one does not make any sense to me), serious relationship, etc.

The hosts said that this was normal – the guy and girl did not have the exclusivity talk to figure out where they were in the relationship, and obviously they were not on the same page. A couple of my American friends told me they would rather just be alone on V-Day, even though they are dating someone. Because they are just not sure if they are ready to take the dating to another level, and they do not want to create a misunderstanding with their partner.

My own V-Day In my case, both my date and I are very cautious and drama-free.

We used this V-Day to make it official that we are only dating each other, and we got the chance to have beautiful V-Day date night at the beach.